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3 Ways Women Can Recognize And Fight Sexism

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Though we’ve gained a great deal of equality in the past century, we women are still fighting against sexism in our daily lives. Here are some of the most prevalent ways men dismiss women, both intentionally and subconsciously.

Gaslighting

What it is:

Have you ever encountered a situation that really upset you, only to hear “you’re freaking out over nothing,” or “you’re overreacting,” or “calm down, it’s not a big deal”? This is a form of what’s known as gaslighting, a practice that entails making the victim feel as though they’re going crazy. In the aforementioned examples, the perpetrator manipulates the victim into believing they’re irrational and mentally unstable, when in reality they’re having a normal reaction to an upsetting situation. This type of gaslighting is usually unintentional; it’s often done by guys who are trying to diffuse a situation and don’t see any other way out.  What they don’t realize, however, is how damaging gaslighting can be. It disempowers the victim by making them feel like they don’t have the right to stand up for themselves when they’re being wronged, and if it happens often enough this notion becomes internalized.

How to combat it:

If you feel upset about something, don’t be afraid to express yourself and communicate your needs and desires. Be on the lookout for phrases that diminish your opinions, like the ones mentioned above, and when someone uses them against you be prepared to explain why you’re upset and why it’s unacceptable that they’re trying to diminish your feelings.

Focus On Appearance

What it is:

This is a powerful force in the arsenal of tools used in the systematic dismissal of women. As opposed to listening to the thoughts, needs, desires, and opinions of women and giving them the respect they deserve, focusing on a woman’s appearance makes it easier to diminish everything else about them. Emphasizing appearance is effective as a dismissal technique as it makes women question their value as anything other than an aesthetic object, and also plants a seed of self-doubt that leads women to fret over their physicality, making them feel insecure about themselves. We see this everywhere in society, from minute interactions between friends to representations in mass media.

How to combat it:

It’s difficult to fight something that’s been ingrained in you your whole life. Even girls who grow up in the most enlightened households still must face our appearance-obsessed society at some point. So how do you combat it? One of the best ways is to keep the conversation going. Talking about the problem keeps it in people’s consciousness, and awareness is the first step toward progress. Another thing you can do is keep an eye out for instances in which somebody is targeted based on their appearances, and actively try to confront the situation.

One-upping

What it is:

You know those people who always have to top your stories or accomplishments? Those people are guilty of one-upmanship, yet another form of undermining and dismissive behavior. These are the kind of people you never want to share anything with, because you know that as soon as you talk about something you’re proud of they’ll think of some way to one up you. When people do this, they’re (whether consciously or not) trying to downplay the accomplishments of others by making them seem insignificant in comparison to the things that they’ve done. While this trait is largely borne of massive insecurity, especially in males who might be threatened by high-achieving females, that doesn’t make it any less insidious.

How to combat it:

With this form of dismissive behavior, it might just be best to let it go. The one-upper you’re dealing with is undoubtedly an insecure bozo, and the best way to fight his behavior is by continuing to excel at what you’re doing. An exception to this is if you’re being publicly humiliated by a one-upper; if this is the case, by all means stand up for yourself.

You can help fight sexism by taking a stand against these forms of dismissive behavior. If your significant other is guilty of these things, it’s time to have a serious talk. And if they’re not receptive, it might be time to start thinking “who will buy my diamond?” if you catch my drift. Whatever happens, just make sure to keep an eye out for these practices, and stand up for yourself and all of womankind!

Madeline Marshall is a freelance writer living in Santa Cruz, CA.

Law of Attraction – How to be a Match for What You Want

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The law of Attraction is a very sensitive and tricky law to put into practice. When you don’t understand how it works it can be quite a struggle to what you deeply want. However when you understand that everything about the law of attraction starts with yourself first then the rewards can be outstanding.

Wanting is not the only thing it takes for you to have. Your wanting can actually repel the things you want from coming to you. So how do you become a match for the things you want without repelling them?

How do you Feel?

Your feelings are a very great indication of what you will attract. How often do you have thoughts about the things you deeply want but also felt scared about actually having those things? Maybe you may have felt scared and worried about the possibility of not being able to get what you desired. Those feelings of fear, actually repels what you want away from you. You loose your magnetic power when you feel fearful or worried or even needy.

Fearful feelings can only mean that you are not a match because when you are truly a match for what you want. You feel that it is already yours because you understand the deeper aspect of how the universe works and you are in a state of knowledge, trust and faith.

Lack of knowledge breads fear, worry and doubt, all of which actually kills your chances of attracting what you deeply desire. To be a match for what you want you must feel that it is already yours. You must feel good about it, you must feel deserving of it.

Those who are wealthy and successful with the law of attraction dive deeply into the knowledge and study deeply all aspects of it until they master it. The more knowledge you have of how the laws of attraction work the better able you become at making it work.

The more you are in contact with the teachings of the universal laws the more confident you become in learning how they work, why they work and when they work. Positive and negative thoughts alone do not make you a master of the laws of attraction.

Does The Law Of Attraction Really Work?

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“Thoughts Are Things” Napoleon Hill wrote it in his famous book “Think and Grow Rich” a few decades ago. Yet to this day not many people understand its profundity.
To someone who might not be familiar with the concept of manifestation, it seems like a nonsensical statement – even absurd! But to a success conscious individual, it is a powerful statement and within it contains life’s most precious secret.

Everything starts with a thought. The Wright brothers had a thought about making flying a reality. Soon enough it became a reality for them and we are the beneficiaries. Donald Trump had a thought of being rich which led him to the right people, right opportunities that helped him along the way and he became rich. Bill Gate had an idea (thought) about making the computer easy to operate and accessible to everyone. His thought manifested. These men (and women) and many other successful individuals understand the most fundamental law: the Law of Attraction.

The Law of Attraction states that similar things attract to one another, thus, the saying “birds of a feather flock together.” If everything begins with thought and the Law of Attraction plays a big role in manifesting the thought, then it can be illustrated as follows:

A THOUGHT ? (attracts) OTHER SIMILAR THOUGHTS ? (attract) OTHER PEOPLE OF SIMILAR THOUGHTS ? (attract) CIRCUMSTANCES THAT ARE IN HARMONY WITH THOSE THOUTHTS ? (lead to) THE THING DESIRED BY THOSE THOUGHTS EXPRESSED IN PHYSICAL FORM

At the level of thought “things” are nothing but random energy waiting to be “assembled”. Yet they are as real as electricity is real. We can’t see electricity, but we know beyond shadows of a doubt that it exists. We also know that thoughts are real because everything that has ever been invented or created in our physical world began with a thought. The manifestation of the “thing” from the invisible plane into our physical world is enabled by the persistence of thought.

Scientists teach us that the whole universe is made of energy. Energy has frequencies. Thoughts are energy in its primitive stage. Thought energies radiate frequencies just as radio antennas radiate frequencies. The level of thought frequency determines the kind of physical manifestation and circumstance that we have; low thought frequencies correspond to the physical expression of similar frequencies while high thought frequencies correspond to things, people, or circumstance of similar frequencies.

The key to keep in mind is that thoughts are as real as any physical thing. You must be completely convinced as that it is so just as you are convinced that the earth is round. Hold your thoughts long enough and in time you’ll see them manifest in your reality.

So go head. Think yourself into riches, a new home, a new car, an opulent lifestyle, happiness, meaningful relationships, peace of mind…whatever you desire. You’re limited to the kind of thoughts you hold in your mind. The Law of Attraction does work. All you need to do is check your thoughts.

Manifest a great life!

Law of Attraction – How Much Action is Needed?

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One of the grave mistakes for most people in applying the law of attraction is not fully understanding the nature of attraction. The greater majority of people who learn of the law of attraction limit their understanding only to their immediate thoughts. While that is important its still a limited part of truly creating their reality.

They judge their thoughts as negative or positive and use that as an indicator to what they can attract. They continue on as they previously did with over working themselves and taking lots of scattered action hopping to manifest their desires by simply thinking positively about their desired goal.

This method fails to produce their desired outcome. Action is needed in this physical realm to manifest the things we want. However, sometimes the only action that we do need is to develop a steady practice of creating the experience in our inner world.

How much action one would take would be in proportion to how strongly you connected with your vision. How much time did you spend creating your inner reality? As you strengthen your time mentally creating what you want, then much less physical action is required.

The stronger your inner creation the less physical action is required on your part. The less time spend holding your vision the more physical action you would need to take.

It’s very hard for most people to understand that all that is ever needed to create the circumstances that you want is your ability to enter into that deep inner reality which is within you.

This requires practice. As you grow in discipline and focus the stronger your ability will become in manifesting your desires. The law of attraction by itself is powerful but an even deeper understanding of the creative process is needed to manifest faster and stronger results.

How to Handle Fear in Using the Law of Attraction – Law of Attraction Classics: WW Atkinson

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Fear thoughts is that condition of the mind in which everything is seen through blue glasses — in which everything seems to bring a sense of the futility of endeavor — the “I Can’t” principle of mentality, as contrasted with the “I Can and I Will” mental attitude. It is the noxious weed in the mental garden, which tends to kill the valuable plants to be found therein. It is the fly in the ointment — the spider in the cup of the Wine of Life.

So far as we know the first person to use the word “Fear-Thought” — which has now passed into common use — was Horace Fletcher, the well-known writer, who coined it to supplant the use of the word “Worry” in a certain sense. He had pointed out that Anger and Worry were the two great hindrances to a well- balanced, advanced and progressive mentality, but many misunderstood him and urged that to abolish Worry meant to cease taking any consideration of the morrow — a lack of common prudence and forethought.

And so Fletcher coined the word “Fear-Thought” to express a phase of his idea of “Forethought without Worry,” and he entitled his second book on the subject, “Happiness, as found in Forethought minus Fear-Thought,” a very happy expression of a very happy idea.

Fletcher also was the first to advance the idea that Fear was not a thing-in-itself, but merely an expression of Fear- Thought — a manifestation of the state of mind known as Fear-Thought. He and others who have written on the subject, have taught that Fear might be abolished by the practice of abolishing Fear-Thought from the mind — by driving it out of the mental chamber — and the best teachers have taught that the best way to drive out Fear (or any other undesirable mental state) was by cultivating the thought of the opposite quality of mind by compelling the mind to dwell upon the mental picture of the desirable quality, and by the appropriate auto-suggestions.

The illustration has often been stated that the way to drive darkness from a room is not to shovel it out, but to throw open the shutters and let the sunlight stream in, and that is the best way to neutralize Fear- Thought.

The mental process has aptly been spoken of as “vibrations,” a figure that has a full warrant in modern science. Then, by raising the vibration to the Positive pitch, the negative vibrations may be counteracted. By cultivating the qualities recommended in the other lessons of this book, Fear-Thought may be neutralized. The poison of Fear- Thought is insidious and subtle, but it slowly creeps through the veins until it paralyzes all useful efforts and action, until the heart and brain are affected and find it difficult to throw it off. Fear-Thought is at the bottom of the majority of failures and “going down” in life.

As long as a man keeps his nerve and confidence in himself, he is able to rise to his feet after each stumble, and face the enemy resolutely — but let him feel the effects of Fear-Thought to such an extent that he cannot throw it off and he will fail to rise and will perish miserable. “There is nothing to fear except Fear,” has well been said.

We have spoken elsewhere about the Law of Attraction, which operates in the direction of attracting to us, that which we Desire. But there is a reverse side to this — it is a poor rule that will not work both ways. Fear will set into motion the Law of Attraction just as well as Desire. Just as Desire draws to one the things he pictures in his mind as the Desired Thing, so will Fear draw to him the thing pictured in his mind as the Thing Feared. “The thing that I feared hath befallen me.” And the reason is very simple, and the apparent contradiction vanishes when we examine the matter.

What is the pattern upon which the Law of Attraction builds under the force of Desire? The Mental Image, of course. And so it is in the case of Fear — the person carries about the Mental Image or haunting picture of the Feared Thing, and the Law of Attraction brings it to him just as it brings the Desired Thing. Did you ever stop to think that Fear was the negative pole of Desire? The same laws work in both cases.

So avoid Fear-Thought as you would the poisonous draught that you know would cause your blood to become black and thick, and your breathing labored and difficult. It is a vile thing, and you should not rest content until you have expelled it from your mental system.

You can get rid of it by Desire and Will, coupled with the holding of the Mental Image of Fearlessness. Drive it up by cultivating its opposite. Change your polarity. Raise your mental vibrations. Someone has said, “There is no Devil but Fear” — then send that Devil back to the place where he properly belongs, for if you entertain him hospitably he will make your heaven a hell in order that he may feel at home. Use the mental Big Stick on him.